This morning I was thinking about the question, “What AM I scared of?” I had a nightmare that reminded me that the three biggest fears in my life (my parents getting divorced, being cheated on, and my house burning down) are all things I’ve experienced and lived through. It sucks living through a nightmare. But on the other side is the rest of your life. And nightmares are rarely personal attacks. It’s usually the issues of another person that cause them to arise. As long as you are living your life the way you believe is the best way to live it, then even nightmares can’t bring you down. They may shake your core, but they provide the opportunity to prove one’s fortitude. “Character building,” they call it.
I see so many people living their lives based on fear. I don’t understand the mentality. Ever since I was a kid and my parents sold their house and bought an old sailboat and took my sister and I sailing for a year, I’ve heard people say, “I wish I could do that” in regards to living a life that involves significant exploration and living outside the norm. When I ask people what’s keeping them from quitting their jobs and going off to explore, it becomes clear that money is a huge deciding factor. Or, more precisely, the notion of safety and comfort. What people don’t often realize is that it’s a decision they have made. Simply, their priority is semblance of safety net over living the life they dream of. In a conversation with Leanne, another paddler, who pointed out, "What's the opposite of Fear? It's Faith. It's about control. If someone doesn't have control, they can either chose to fear the unknown, or they can have faith in the unknown."
Where are you on the spectrum? What do you fear? What would happen if you let go of control and had faith in things working out instead of fearing the possible outcomes? How would your life change?